Post #38: React or Respond or Nothing?

           I have faced many unprecedented situations in my life where I really did not know what to do, how to do, where to go, when to do, whom to share with, why to do, lots of question made an amplified noise in my mind. Things were lolling between the lolls. I was in dilemma. I had nothing to answer. Now, when I recall the incidents, I realize I reacted where I should have been responded. I made the things go wrong. But I was not always wrong. 

           Some of my friends in college played politics with me, left no stone unturned to show me down to the world. Rumours & lies were spread. One of my friends told me, people have started hating you, you need to think over. The best thing I did at that time was I neither reacted nor responded, I just ignored and made no change in my personality. I ignored because there was nothing likeable in me, so I let them do whatever they wanted. 

           Sometimes I reacted over falsities and hurt myself. Sometimes I lifted the things to break them, but I stopped my hands halfway, I controlled my reflexes. I counted the numbers down from 10 to 1. I drank cold water and anger vanished. The best thing here I did was I stopped paying attention to my haters; I became straight forward and handled the things practically. 

            My friends reacted when I said I have no friends and no enemies. They reacted because it was the truth, and I spoke the truth. I stood up for myself. I have no regret I made enemies, because I stood against lies, falsities and odds. Now I have beautiful friends, no matter less in number, but they are my quality friends. 

            I remember, I stood against school authority for not teaching properly and not taking actions on time. Some pro-principal teachers warned me to take actions. I alone stood firmly and did in welfare of all my batch mates. I don't know what was that, ‘reaction' or 'response' but I had decided to stand against authority. After that, things started running smoothly. Probably that was action, neither reaction nor response. 

             When I migrated to Delhi 3 years back, I was impatient and violent. Here adapting with the situation was the key. But you can't adapt with everything. I had never used any single word of abusive languages, never consumed alcohol, never smoked nor do I now. These were against my ethics as I believed. I decided to leave the friends with whom I stayed in a flat. When I said, I'm leaving, they started abusing me badly, God can be testified, I did not even speak a single word and I responded very well. It was in my favour. I left the place. It was so peaceful now, because I did not react. 

             There is a gnome, "Not everyone you lose is a loss". It is 100% true. Bad things and bad persons should have no place in your life. They did wrong with me, they would have to face the music. I'm not going to give a damn and hurt myself. 

            Once in a restaurant, one lady saw cockroach moving towards her, as that cockroach approached to her, she panicked, she started jumping and throwing the things, everyone in there panicked after seeing her scared, crying and throwing the things. But waiter came, lifted the coacroach with his gloved hand, placed in a dustbin. Here that lady reacted and waiter responded. 

             In a nutshell, we need to identify where should we react and where should we respond. Reaction may or may not be right, but if you respond carefully things will always go in a right direction. Sometimes ignoring can be the best possible alternative to try. You need to identify. 
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